Did he change his mind?

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By Stephen Phillips

Dear Stephen,

I was dating a guy who seemed very open to commitment; in fact, it seemed like he was moving a bit fast for me. However, as soon as I decided to open up and say I was developing feelings, he started ignoring me and distancing himself. We broke up. Did he really just change his mind? How could he do that?

- Still in Shock

Dear Still in Shock,

A guy who is more open to commitment than the girl – sounds almost too good to be true. I suppose in this case it was. Mr. Right did a complete 180 just at the moment you realized he could be a pretty good guy for you. So, what the hell happened?

You know, I try my hardest to be the voice of mankind, the final authority on the motives behind seemingly retarded male behavior. Because, you know, I am a genius and know all there is to know about dating.

Yeah, so let me think.

I got nothing.

Maybe he never was the strong-willed Super Commitment Man he wanted you to believe he was. Maybe he wanted to get in your pants a few times as a symbol of male pride. Or perhaps he’s a secret agent who’s being chased by Russian terrorists and had to distance himself from you for your own protection.

Or maybe he’s a coward.

Perhaps, like a lot of men, he liked the chase and nothing more. He’s not really into commitment – he’s much too immature to fathom the reality of being considerate of another person all of the time. However, he enjoys the game of wooing women, and once he’s done, he’s done.

Whatever the case may be with this guy, I’m sorry you had to be a victim of the John Kerry of daters. Just keep trudging along, and please try your best to remember that 75 percent of men give the rest of us a bad name. Your guy will come along. This relationship mishap happens to the best of us, and it’s nobody’s fault.

Well, except his.

E-mail your questions to Stephen@tigerweekly.com

Originally Published: Issue 555 - June 20, 2007

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