Does he still like me?

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By Stephen Phillips

Dear Go-To Guy,

One night, one of my best guy friends told me he liked me, and we made out. Two problems: First, I was drunk, and second, it was three months ago. We still continued to hang out, but we never talked about it! He was sober when he told me, but I don’t know if he still likes me or not, and alas, now I really like him.

What do I do?

-Befuddled on Brightside

Dear Befuddled,

You’ve asked the king of creating awkward situations, and believe me; you can relax on this one. Neither of you are comfortable with bringing it up, but of course you are smart enough to realize that one of several things will happen if no one speaks up.

1. He won’t bring it up. He’ll assume that his feelings were one-sided, and he will eventually move on. You will have to move on as well.

2. It will plague you for a while, and you will either have to settle for no closure, or your “emotional bottle” so to speak will end up bursting. If this happens, the conversation about “that night” certainly won’t go as calmly as it should.

3. Then there’s the possibility that the two of you will get drunk again and history will repeat itself. Thus, the cycle of trouble starts all over again.

I try my best not to be a generic advice columnist, but I’m throwing that all out the window right now to offer you some crappy, seemingly obvious, daily newspaper advice: Tell him how you feel!

I’m no psychology major, but I can tell you how much it bothers me when I don’t have closure. I need resolution for absolutely everything that enters my head, and I think you want the same thing.

Because you were the one who was drunk that night, the responsibility to bring it up falls on your shoulders. He might be afraid to discuss it if he knows you were drunk, and he might be thinking what most people would think: You had a moment of impaired judgment and you want to put it behind you. Who knows whether or not you want to talk about it? Only you do.

He was sober when he told you he had feelings for you. You want him to know that even though you weren’t sober, the night meant something to you – or at least it does now. It’s been three months, so he might have already successfully blocked it out of his head. However, my dear Befuddled on Brightside, the best way to get information out of a man is to ask. Be brave, and be prepared to trudge your way through what could end up being an uncomfortable chat.

Good luck!

If you’re a girl that wants some advice from a guy, e-mail your questions to stephen@tigerweekly.com.

Originally Published: Issue 417 - October 11, 2006

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